Reflections on 2009 and The Last Decade

Goodbye, 2009. Hello, 2010.

First, a few reflections on the last decade:

Ten years ago, I was less than a year into an editorial position at a Nashville publishing house. Little did I realize that job would directly and indirectly lead to my success at becoming a paid writer (something I’ve dreamed of since elementary school). Truly, that position was from God and all the steps since then have been orchestrated by him.

Chris and I were still living in our small apartment in Green Hills and loving. every. minute. of. it. We have such sweet memories of our home there. We had a new dog and were thinking of buying our first home. Having kids was still distant on our desire list but a consideration, nonetheless.
I’ve been in my thirties for this decade. They have far surpassed my twenties. This decade:

  • We’ve moved twice and owned two homes. 
  • We’ve had three children.
  • I’ve been published in a national magazine and been paid for my writing. 
  • I’ve gained and lost hundreds of pounds total with pregnancies and Weight Watchers.
  • Interestingly, we’ve been at the same church for the entire decade. The membership of believers in that congregation has more than sustained us through the ups and downs of stressful jobs and parenting. Weekly, our faith is nurtured. I’m so glad to see the benefits of the consistency of our relationship with Christ. 
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And now, for my year in review through the words of my blog:

This is my 114th post for 2009. I exceeded my posts for 2008 but didn’t quite double my post numbers.

In January, I’d had enough of the school car hook-up line and vented about it. We got a new member of the family, while Susanna’s theological prowess increased.

My kitchen appliances and I did not get along well in February, and my twins began the fine art of manipulation.

March, April, and May were hectic and busy, and I didn’t blog much at all. We had birthdays to celebrate and yard sales to organize and ear infections to diagnose.

In June, I wrote about my struggles with beautiful and perfect-looking moms in the preschool parking lot. I still have people mention that post to me. I was reprimanded at the library, further proving my point that our branch library is the armpit of Bellevue. 

The first mention of my awareness that I’ll be 40 soon came in July. I got a lot of comments on Facebook when I wrote about why we tell our kids the anatomical names of their private parts.

During the last few months of the year, my blogging picked up. I became interested in writing more, building an audience, and using my blog for an expressive, creative outlet (not just as a family scrapbook of sorts). In August, I wrote about Miley Cyrus and her disappointing display at the Teen Choice Awards.

I evaluated my summer and brought justice to a decades-old unfair situation in September. But, the most important event of that month was by far my being de-friended, blocked, and kicked out of a cyber community. That type of response can only mean one thing, I reasoned: that I had finally arrived as a writer.

In October, I began my TULIP Tuesday postings on Calvinism and delivered a confession that surprised some of you. 

It was November before I posted my ideas about Christians and Halloween (because that’s the way I roll; I still haven’t mailed my Christmas cards). I had a real celebrity sighting, shared some sweet time with my daughter, and participated in NaBloPoMo (I posted every day of the month and still have a hard time believing I actually pulled it off).

In December, I had my first guest post and I realized my boys have finally reached a new level of maturity. December started with bad news but also with abiding hope. It ended with my shopping with Mavis and Daryl at Wal-Mart.

Thanks for reading The Writer’s Block in 2009. Your reading, commenting, and participation are appreciated and make the blogging experience that much more dynamic for me.

Glad That Christmas Is Over

Christmas is over, and I’m glad.

I hate being that way, but it’s how I feel. Just being honest.

I said this to Chris when we collapsed into bed on Christmas Eve. He got really upset with my comment, saying I needed to try to enjoy it, savor it, and celebrate it.

I was (and am still) just so, so tired.

(If you’ll indulge my whining for a moment, please read on. If you don’t wish to, skip the following paragraph. And, yes, I know some people have far busier lives than I. But for me and my geriatric metabolism, my infantile sleep needs, and my underactive thyroid, stick a fork in me; I am done.)

This Christmas season, I worked about 10-15 hours either away from home or on projects at home every week. I shopped for and wrapped gifts and stocking stuffers for 4 family members, 2 sets of grandparents, 3 nephews, school and Sunday school teachers, the mail carrier and trash men, and a few friends. I designed and ordered Christmas cards (still haven’t addressed and mailed them). I designed and ordered Christmas cards for my mother. I planned, shopped for, and cooked Thanksgiving and Christmas lunches (with help from others). I led two one-hour cheerleading practices and communicated with 9 sets of parents about said practices. I baked frozen taquitos and pizza rolls for our Christmas concert at church and attended said concert. I glued tinsel around 12 little pine cone Christmas trees and took the trees and my little Daisy Scout to the nursing home to sing Christmas carols. I assisted at a first grade Christmas party.  I attended a preschool Christmas program.

And, oh, I managed to (sort of) run my home by cleaning, cooking, doing laundry, helping with homework, and driving people here and there.

(Whining over. You can begin reading again.)

This year, more than those in recent memories, I’ve felt just overwhelmed, overstimulated, and overfed. Because of a really busy work schedule this year in addition to school, church, Girl Scouts, and cheerleading, I’ve not had a lot of extra time to pay attention to what we were eating or getting the best price on gifts or planning ahead or going to bed on time.

I hate the hectic nature of the holidays. Hate. It. To me, it seems to be the antithesis of the true meaning of Christmas. When the things I usually enjoy become more of a chore, I know something is out of whack.

I regret our not having had more of an emphasis on Christ this season. Yes, we had our Advent wreath and readings and our church events, but somehow, it seems that I wanted more.

On Christmas night, I insisted we not forget to light our Advent wreath for a final reading. Our kids had been inundated (and I do mean inundated) by attention and presents all day long. I told Chris, “We are ending this day with Jesus!”

And so we did.

Can we make Christmas 2010 more relaxed and more focused on the things that truly matter? We shall see.

Mavis and Daryl at Wal-Mart on Christmas Eve

What’s more insane than Target on the Saturday before Christmas?

How about Wal-Mart on Christmas Eve?

Oh yea, baby.

You ask, And what’s wrong with you this year?

Yea, I don’t know.

Anywho, I had to go to Wal-Mart today to pick up some Wal-Mart gift cards for my nephews. They live in my small hometown that doesn’t have any place to shop (or socialize, for that matter) except Wal-Mart. And I usually buy my gift cards at Kroger except that Kroger doesn’t carry Wal-Mart cards.

Thus, the trip to Wal-Mart on Christmas Eve.

I knew I was in trouble when I got behind Mavis and Daryl in the 20 items or less line. I’m sure they had at least 21 items and Checker Girl took forever to ring their order.

So then, Mavis pulls out a 24-pack of Milwaukee’s Best canned beer. Checker Girl zaps the beer.

Mavis turns to Daryl. “Did you see that?”

“See what?”

“That was $12-something.”

“Twelve? It was supposed to be $6-something.”

“Do you want me to get it? If I get it, I ain’t getting any gas.”

“No. Put it back.”

“Do you want it? ‘Cause I ain’t getting any gas.”

“Naw.”

This back-and-forth continues with Daryl saying it’s fine to put the beer back, while Mavis is pledging to forgo essential fuel for this horrible swill.

I wanted to pipe up and say that if you are going to sacrifice essentials, it should at least be for some high quality beer. I mean, I’d rather “splurge” on some Diet Moutain Dew than Milwaukee’s Best, and really, Diet Moutain Dew is far better.

So, I’m kind of thinking Daryl has won this little argument and the family will, after all, get gas for the car when Mavis puts the 24-pack back in the cart.

“You decided to get it?” I asked her.

“Yea. That’s his Christmas present. He better not ask me for nothing else.”

Merry Christmas, Mavis and Daryl. I hope that Milwaukee’s Best was good while you were walking home from Wal-Mart.

Christmas Is Coming!

Christmas is now just days away. I must reflect a bit on this busy season.

Yesterday, I did a few final errands and picked up the last of my gifts. I braved Target on the Saturday before
Christmas. It was so crowded that all the shopping carts were taken when I got there. I decided that I wouldn’t allow anyone or anything get me angry. I was just going to go with the flow. I did pretty well.

This year, I wasn’t knocked over by suffocating perfume, but I did have to navigate around large groups of shoppers. I think it’s hilarious that Bubba and Betty Lou decide to bring the whole family–Grandma, Bubba Jr. and little Brittany–out to Target for shopping. Then they like to stand in the middle of the aisle and discuss LOUDLY what ideas they have for gifts.

People. It’s the Saturday before Christmas and you are in Target. You should at least know what you’re getting Uncle Ricky.

I’m zipping. Needing to zip. In and out.

Zip. Zip.

Get out of my way.

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I gave myself permission this year to stop believing that:
a. I enjoy baking.
b. I can bake “gifts” for people.

And so, I was relieved of my baking burden and didn’t make anything for anyone. I don’t like baking anyway, but I like the idea of baking (that whole “I want to be that girl who bakes” issue that I have). But this year, I didn’t bake.

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I’ve been working A LOT more this year than in previous years, which has taken quite a toll on my Christmas organization. Much to my disappointment, I’ve had to cancel plans to attend some social gatherings. Thankfully, I’ve not gotten sick-sick (knock on wood), but I have been sleep-deprived and headachey and kind of yuck. I’ve also simply run out of time. I had a bit of a crisis of schedule on Friday night. After a few hours of literally mapping out what needed to be done when, I felt a little better about managing my time. But I have to stick to my schedule in order to get it all done on time.

I really regret that this Christmas season has kind of evaporated. We’ve not been as consistent with Advent family worship as I would have liked. And I hate the moaning and groaning that I’ve done when an invitation has been extended to us: “Another party/event/program? One more place to be!”

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Our garage door opener is stuck. And I just have to say that I love my garage and my automatic garage door opener almost as much as I love my husband and kids. And so, on the coldest/rainiest weekend of our fall/winter season thus far, our garage door decides to stop working. And so, hooray! Who knows how much that will cost?

And, also? The toilet in the guest bath has been having some flushing issues. I think it’s flushing at the moment, but the line may be partially clogged or something. OK. So my mother-in-law is coming tomorrow. I knew she’d need to use the bathroom. Not trusting the reliability of the guest bath, I decided I’d need to prepare the master bath for her use.

So I devoted about two hours a little while to cleaning my bathroom. It had been way too long  a little while since I had mopped my bathroom floor, but I was able to get it freshened up and passable for use. And that was just a fun way to spend my Sunday evening.

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The Girl Scout troop went Christmas caroling tonight at the local nursing home. It was sweet and they seemed to enjoy having us. I am confronted by the effects of the Fall when I see these long-past vibrant folks being spoon-fed and wearing bibs. I was struck tonight by the extreme regression. How interesting is it that in one’s final days he or she must revert to children’s activities (making Christmas crafts)? They had a life-size Santa in the dining room and school-room-like bulletin boards. I don’t know. The juxtaposition of the vibrant children with life ahead against the backdrop of the men and women bound to their chairs, having the best of their days far in the past, was just unsettling. And sad. And it made me long for Heaven.

Movie Lovers: Visit the Netflix Holiday House and Enter to Win a Gift Basket From Netflix

Long before my kids were born, I worked for a Nashville publishing house. I loved my job and my creative co-workers, who happened to be movie fanatics.

We had a great time talking about our favorite movies and quoting scenes to one another.

Eventually, we swapped our lists of our “favorites,” even to the point we’d ask job candidates during interviews to name their favorite movies. I thought it was a lot of fun, not only to relive some memorable cinematic moments but also to discover some new movies and learn a little bit more about my friends.

So, as a nod to my former co-workers, I want to hear your top three favorite movies. Just comment below AND (here’s the best part!) …

When you do, you’ll be entered to win this AWESOME gift basket from Netflix with autographed CDs from Julianne Hough and Jennifer Hudson plus the following Netflix-branded items:

  • slippers
  • two luggage tags
  • one messenger bag
  • business card holder
  • soccer jersey



I’ll bet as you read through the comments, you’ll find some titles of movies you’ve never seen or you’d like to see again. Netflix can help with that!

Leave at least three favorite movies (more if you’d like) in the comments and you’re entered to win the basket.

Earn additional entries by:

  1. Tweeting the contest with this link
  2. Posting the contest with this link to your Facebook profile

(Please come back here, though, and leave a comment for each, saying what you did).

The contest will be open until midnight, December 21st. Winner will be announced Tuesday, December 22nd.

And because you asked (and because there’s NO WAY I could ever limit myself to just three), here are my Top Ten Favorite Movies (in no particular order):

  1. Gone With the Wind
  2. Cinema Paradiso
  3. Moulin Rouge
  4. It’s a Wonderful Life
  5. Waiting for Guffman
  6. Memento
  7. American Beauty
  8. Rope
  9. The Sixth Sense
  10. The Matrix

Visit the Netflix Holiday House

Nashville shoppers are in for a special treat.

The Netflix Holiday House is open today, December 17, at Opry Mills Mall in the Food Court. As Blonde Mom Blog says, you’ll probably just want to move in!

At the Holiday House, you can take a break from shopping, have a snack, and try out Netflix-ready devices for instant streaming of TV episodes and movies.

Take a much-needed break from the crowds and craziness and visit the Netflix Holiday House at Opry Mills today. You’ll get some great gift ideas for the movie lover on your list and learn about new ways to enjoy your Netflix membership.

Compensation disclosure: I have not been compensated for this giveaway but did agree to participate with other Nashville bloggers on this promotion. I agreed to do it because I thought it sounded like fun and am really excited for one reader of The Writer’s Block to win this great gift basket.


My Little Steel Magnolia

“The only thing that separates us from the animals is our ability to accessorize.”

—Clairee from Steel Magnolias


Today I went to Susanna’s Christmas party at school. On my way inside the class, I stopped to browse the artwork hanging outside her classroom.

I quickly found her work. It was a writing assignment that had a glittered package on the top. The writing prompt beneath was something like, “If I Had Three Gifts, I Would …”

She wrote:

I would buy a home for someone who didn’t have a home.

(Awwww. How sweet!)

I would give them a couch and a bed.

(Such a heart of charity; such a good Samaritan, this child of mine.)

I would give them clothes …

(She really gets what Christmas is all about. She sees the needs around her, and she is moved to compassion. About to shed a tear, I read her last words.)

and jewelry to make them feel better.

Five Challenges to Working at Home

Guess what?

I have my first guest post today at The Work at Home Woman!

Check out my article, “Five Challenges to Working at Home.” I’ve been a freelance writer and editor for almost seven years. I’ve operated my business from my home, so I feel pretty qualified to speak on this subject.

If you are a work at home woman or want to be one, subscribe to The Work at Home Woman. It’s a great resource for all things related to working at home.

See you over there!

Movie Lovers in Nashville: Come to the Netflix Holiday House!

Come See A Variety of Holiday Gifts for the Movie Lover

Nashville-area shoppers are encouraged to rest their weary feet in one of several rooms at Netflix’s Holiday House in the Opry Mills Mall. Lounge in the family room, a child’s bedroom, a teen’s hideaway, the media room or in the kitchen to instantly watch TV episodes and movies streamed from Netflix.

Not sure what to get the movie lover on your list?
Need a moment or two to rest during the frenzy of shopping?
Want to try before you buy?

Visit the Netflix Holiday House on Thursday, December 17, at Opry Mills in Nashville

The Netflix Holiday House features all the comforts of home from comfy couches, recliners, and beanbags, to hot cocoa, cookies, and popcorn.

Each room is equipped with Netflix-ready devices including the X-Box 360, PlayStation3, TiVO HD DVR, Roku Digital Video Player, and LG Network Blu-ray player, providing shoppers with the opportunity to try this holiday gift before buying it for a loved one.

WHERE: Opry Mills Mall – Food Court
433 Opry Mills Drive
Nashville

WHEN: Thursday, December 17, 2009
All-day

AND … make sure you visit The Writer’s Block on Thursday when I’ll be giving away an AWESOME Netflix gift basket! More details will follow. That’s just a little teaser for now.

What I’d Do to be Left Alone

Water-boarding? Schmorter-boarding!

We can put an end to all sorts of alleged inhumane and unusual interrogation tactics for criminals, terrorists, and spies.

Just turn my kids loose on ’em.

After being subjected to the umpteenth millionth request for something to drink, the accused would enthusiastically spill his or her guts just to enjoy a reprieve from incessant demands.

A few other sure-fire scenarios to break the most hardened of criminals:

  • Give the accused a comfy chair, a Snuggie, and a cold drink in front of a flat screen TV playing his or her favorite show. Allow the person to get comfortable and engrossed in the show. Admit a couple of hungry, thirsty, and irritable toddlers.
  • Take the accused to a restaurant with at least three kids under age eight. At intervals of every 15-20 minutes, have kids rotate requests to go to the potty.
  • One toy. Three kids. Watch the sparks fly as the accused tries to referee the fights.
  • Put the accused in the room with a small group of first graders. Tell the kids that Christmas, New Year’s, Valentine’s, Easter, the Fourth of July, Halloween, and Thanksgiving are coming “soon.” Have the kids ask repeatedly how many days until their favorite holiday.

I’m telling you, if the government officials would just turn interrogation over to parents, we’d have confessions galore.

Sometimes I’m surprised at my own lack of resolve with my kids. I mean, try as I may, I break many of the cardinal rules of parenting. I buckle to their most outrageous demands. I crumble like a stale chocolate chip cookie when I just want to be left alone. When I’m particularly tired, cranky, and/or PMS’ing, I just want distance.

“Can I have fifteen pieces of candy?”

Here.

“Can I run around in my underwear?”

Sure.

“Can I play in traffic?”

Let me open the door for you.

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In summary, my new favorite commercial is this (and I don’t watch this show, but I love this promo):

Another Cool Contest!

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Enter here and while you’re over there, check out some of Lindsay’s posts. She’s funny and real and she’s a Nashvillian.